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Just for today: I will let go of anger

Posted on June 8, 2019 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)
Just for today: I will let go of anger

Anger is a challenging and destructive emotion for many of us. It is something we often use against the people we care about the most; hurting ourselves as much as it hurts them. Anger is often generated when someone or something fails to meet our expectations. Perhaps even more importantly, when we do not meet the expectations we set for ourselves. But anger rarely achieves anything other than to make us and others feel badly.  

Anger is actually a conscious choice, a habitual response we have developed. We have been reacting in a similar fashion to similar circumstances for years. Yet, we can break that cycle and choose a different response instead. If a typical morning involves being cut off by another driver on our way to work, we often default to anger. Instead we can choose not to be angry - just for today.

Why not just take a deep breath, relax, forgive and let it go? What will we achieve by remaining angry and cutting him off in return? Nothing. All that we end up with is an elevated heart rate and more stress; which is not good for our well-being.

In the fast paced world we live in there are many times throughout the day when we feel triggered, stressed, frustrated and angry. It is just as harmful for us to deny our reality or pretend we do not have these feelings. Instead we can use anger to transform. We can acknowledge our anger. Witness it. Let it transform. When we acknowledge and witness our anger, we allow that energy to transform. We can then invite love and compassion into that space.

Practices to help with this principle:
  1. Use meditation to help you develop forgiveness and an understanding of yourself and others
  2. Identify what triggers your anger and learn how to regain control of your emotions
  3. Practice responding in a positive manner. When you become angry, the person or situation then has complete control over you. Once you learn to respond in a positive manner, you will never again allow anything to take your power.  
  4. Approach each person or situation with compassion. Try to understand what is occurring below the surface. Why are they behaving this way?
  5. Do not dwell on negative thoughts
  6. Surround yourself with people who have positive outlooks

Just for today means focusing on the present day, not projecting too much into the future. Anger is more manageable if we think of the present day.

Just for Today - Living In The Present

Posted on June 8, 2019 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)
Just for Today - Living In The Present

Each of the five Reiki principles begins with "Just for Today”. This phrase encourages us to live in the moment and be aware of what is going on around us. Our brains were designed to keep us alive. Part of this task is to constantly be alert for threats; real and imagined. Those threats are found in the past, present and future. 

Living in the present forces us to live in the Now which is the only time over which we have control. Living in the present gives opportunities for appreciation and wonderment, to truly experience whatever we are doing at any given moment. 
It is a Buddhist precept - being Mindful. In other words, having our mind right here, right now, We do not allow our thoughts to wander into memories of time gone by or imaginings of time to come. Focusing on the past and/or future invites worry and anger. “Just for Today” brings consciousness to the moment where we can project gratitude and compassion. 

All ages can learn and benefit from Mindful practices. Learning to live “Just for Today” helps us to become more focused, calm, in control, and self-aware. By practicing mindfulness, people can learn to become more aware of their own thoughts, feeling, sensations, and the environment around us.  

Mindful practices to try; both for adults and children:
1. Coloring:
Quietly color. Tell children and yourself that if they’ve made a mistake, just to breathe and move on. Mindfulness is about just letting the experiences pass us by without making judgements about them.
2. Connect with Nature:
Take a ten minute nature walk. Encourage children and yourself to breathe in fresh air and experience the outdoors. While out there, look around and take in the environment with your senses.
3. Mindfulness 5-4-3-2-1:
This is a good grounding technique for all. This is an especially great activity to help kids manage anxiety or anger. Look around at the current surroundings and find five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. By completion of this time, all will be more present and calm.

Reiki Principles Part 1

Posted on April 2, 2019 at 4:18 PM Comments comments (0)

Reiki Principles by Reiki Master,  Donna Magtibay   
Mon, Apr 1, 2019

  Reiki is an energy healing modality that aims to remove blockages and/or increase the flow of energy around and throughout the body. Its holistic approach works on the body, mind, and spirit to stimulate the body’s own natural healing abilities. 
  Healing differs from curing. The goal of allopathic medicine is to cure or eradicate disease whereas Reiki aims to heal or restore balance and harmony. Restoring balance and harmony allows the body, mind and spirit to heal itself. This often results in relaxation, pain reduction, improved healing, and reduced symptoms of illness. 
  In order to to maintain the healing and/or to enhance the healing, the recipient of Reiki must play an active role in their healing. This may include changes in lifestyle, beliefs, thought patterns, friends, etc. 

 The Reiki principles assist in adding balance and perspectives to ones life. 

   Not only must the recipients play an active role in their healing, the Reiki practitioners must also work toward becoming their highest self. Mikao Usui, the founder of Reiki, believed that in order for anyone to practice Reiki and transfer healing energy to others, they must have first taken responsibility for their own health and wellbeing. He developed five principles which he taught to his students as strategies to apply to life. He considered the five Reiki principals to be the "secret of inviting happiness." He believed the principles to be a medicine for all people and all diseases because they teach us to focus on positive emotions while releasing the rest.
  The Reiki principles are intended for you to remember and reflect on in order to help add balance and perspective to your life. No one is expected to adhere to them as rules.They are spiritual guidelines that enable you to work on yourself each day, without any added pressure or guilt. 

The five Reiki principles are
Just for today:
  • I will let go of anger
  • I will not worry
  • I will show appreciation for my blessings
  • I will do my work honestly
  • I will be kind to every living thing

Even though it might seem a bit overwhelming to live by all five of this principles every single day, you can start today by trying just one. We will explore each of the principles in subsequent posts.

9 Harmful Behaviors to Avoid If Your Loved One Is Chronically Ill

Posted on March 4, 2017 at 6:17 PM Comments comments (0)
Today I'm sharing a post by Chronic Illness writer 

9 Harmful Behaviors to Avoid If Your Loved One Is Chronically Ill
Anyone who lives with a chronic health condition knows how frustrating it can be to deal with family and friends who either just don’t understand or flat out don’t care.
Yes, it’s true that most people won’t understand something until they go through it themselves. This isn’t really an excuse for overt selfishness and total lack of compassion, though.
If you are a family member or friend of someone who struggles with a physical/mental illness or disability, here are some things you want to be mindful of. You might be engaging in some of these behaviors knowingly or unknowingly. Either way, it’s unhelpful and hurtful.

1. Expecting them to get over it. It absolutely does not work like that. Trust me. I promise you. Nobody “gets over” an illness or disability.

2. Expecting them to be there for you for any problem you may have, but refusing to take the time to be there for them. This includes calling to ask how they are, asking if doctor appointments and tests went OK and asking them if they need to talk about what’s bothering them. It’s a two-way street. I’ve listened with empathy to stories of divorce, problems with children, sick parents, boyfriend problems, financial struggles, etc. Surely you can give me the same consideration. Calling them to constantly complain about your problems while never acknowledging theirs is thoughtless and selfish.

3. Minimizing their struggles and health concerns. Speaking to them like their problems aren’t valid or making things into a competition will only make things worse for them and make them not like you. Which leads me to my next point…

4. Making illness and life situations into a contest. Contrary to what some may think, none of us are in the running for a medal or an award for who is the sickest. I don’t play that game and neither should anyone else. We are all fighting our individual battles and demons to the best of our ability. Don’t spend your time debating who has it worse. It’s insulting and it’s a waste of time.

5. Forgetting birthdays. This one sounds a little petty, but the truth is, birthdays can be lonely for people who have an invisible or chronic illness. Sending a card or text or calling can make a difference. Most of us have smartphones that remind us when someone comments on our Facebook status. Surely you can find a way to set a reminder to remember a loved one’s birthday.

6. Ignoring them. The worst thing you can do is pretend someone doesn’t exist. It’s the ultimate insult.

7. Blaming them for their illness. Most of us did not choose to be sick. We are most likely trying everything we can to get better. Medications can cause weight gain, fatigue and other health issues. Our illness alone is enough to wear us out. This can lead to or worsen symptoms of depression and anxiety. It also increases feelings of isolation. Don’t blame us for something we cannot control. There are days where the fight is too hard and we need time off. This is not being weak. It’s called taking care of yourself.

8. Telling them it’s all in their head. This is basically the verbal equivalent of slapping or spitting in someone’s face. Just don’t do it – ever.

9. Don’t assume. This is a big one. Don’t assume because I am smiling or put on a brave voice and face that all is well. Don’t assume because I am having a good day and feeling well enough to engage more with life that I’m cured. It’s called taking advantage of having a good day and trying to make the most of it while it lasts.
If you’re doing any of these things, please stop. If you aren’t sure if you are doing these things, print out this list and run it by the person. They will probably tell you if you are guilty of the above. They may even have some pieces of advice of their own to add. Listen and pay attention to what they have to say.

This post originally appeared on Stephen Fratello.

Benefits of Massage

Posted on March 1, 2017 at 3:39 PM Comments comments (3)
A wonderful article on evidence based massage benefits.

January Happenings

Posted on January 9, 2017 at 8:57 PM Comments comments (5)
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